Lesbian Exclusive Exchange

Too much Real L Word drama in your relationship? Then you have to resist these deadly urges that are sure to ruin your otherwise healthy relationship.
Girl Spy
Maybe you think you're staying ahead of the curve by keeping constant surveillance of your girlfriend's Myspace, Facebook and Twitter accounts. But being aware of the minutiae of her everyday world shows a lack of trust, and will more than likely lead to over analysis and perhaps even boredom. It really does more harm than good. Besides, it's borderline stalker behavior.
I Lie
Lying to your partner for any reason does not make for a successful future together. It's really simple stupid-just don’t do it.
Family Matters
No matter how you feel about her family, telling her how much they drive you nuts is bound to drive a wedge into your relationship. Even if she thinks her relatives are bananas, she doesn't want to hear you bash her blood. It’s best to hold your tongue with respect to her family.
Cat Fight
It's natural for all couples to have arguments, especially if you've been together a while. However, fights that become physical or regularly spill out into public are damaging and embarrassing relationship issues.
That Girl
Letting yourself go is not only bad for your health and self esteem, it sends a bad message to your partner. Gaining weight or not caring about the way you look, no matter the length of the relationship, shows you have stopped caring about yourself. Perhaps you don't care about the way she thinks you look either. Don't be that girl.
Make Over
Many women think they are helping when trying to make their partner over. It's fine to give your partner some tips or advice on make up or fashion or whatever, IF she asks for it. Don't try to get her to wear make up if she doesn't like it and don't buy her butchier clothes just because you love the butch in her. You may end up causing more problems for the relationship.
Avoid & Ignore
Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship, but you don't! In your quest to avoid creating drama, you might be allowing things that upset you to go unsaid and to fester. If you do, you are doing yourself and your partner a great injustice. Good communication is crucial to a  happy, long-term relationship.

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Actress Tammy Lynn Micheals has taken to her blog to publicly air her grievances about her ex-wife, Melissa Etheridge.

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It's true, the more you increase your personal appeal the more social and dating opportunities will come your way.If you don't already have an idea of where you might be falling short, here are some tips to send your allure soaring. It will require a tad of determination to develop such dexterity , but you'll be richly rewarded for your efforts.
Style Savvy
The way you dress and wear your hair is the sum of your  first impression. Neglecting your grooming or your wardrobe will certainly cost you dates. To dress your best, know where to splurge and when to scrimp. Develop your signature style by determining colors and cuts that most flatter you. Chic lesbians have the ability to wear trends without looking like fashion whores. The secret is to limit yourself to one or two trendy pieces per outfit and for the rest of the outfit to be classic. When it comes to your hair, mix it up a bit, use the right kind of shampoo and conditioner for your hair type and avoid overworking your locks. Be diligent about keeping your body hair in check and whiten your teeth regularly.Of course, pay attention to your hands, other lesbians do. Consider a manicure to get you started in the right direction, and be sure to slather on the hand lotion several times a day.
Socialite
Even if you feel extremely anxious in interpersonal situations, it is possible to turn your social world around. You can actually learn to be charming, playful, persuasive, polite and a good conversationalist. To become more adept at socializing, read a lot and stay on top of current events including what's hot in film, tv, business, politics and yes, even gossip. If time is short, seek out good all-purpose websites-like this one;) However, remember that being the most interesting lesbian at the party doesn't always involve dominating the scene.Make others feel at ease by simply projecting a sense of calm assuredness and asking open-ended questions to encourage others to talk. Most girls love to talk about themselves, so showing interest by listening and eye-contact usually tricks her into finding you fascinating even if you reveal relatively little about yourself. Also, please don't take yourself too seriously. The capacity to laugh at yourself shows self-confidence, which is infinitely more appealing than being an uptight bitch.
Sexy Sexy
You don't have to be a rock star to have sex appeal. What you do need is the right body language, a healthy sense of self confidence, a knack for flirting, and a hint of amazing perfume or cologne. Closed body language, like crossing your arms, or hands in pockets or slouching, gives off the vibe that you are defensive. While open body language shows that you're comfortable with yourself. Making eye contact and standing up straight conveys a self-assured attitude, which is a huge turn-on for us. And because we pay attention to smell, you should also choose your fragrance wisely by doing your best to track down the potion that complements your natural scent. Learn to use humor and  read body language to flirt successfully -- if she looks at you more than once, she's probably interested.
Lioness
Poor performance between the sheets will send your allure plummeting. News Flash:! sexual skills can be learned! So start reading books and articles to improve your bedroom know-how. Focus on finding ways to increase your sexual repertoire by being creative & switching things up to keep your sex life spicy. For example, figure out the finer points involved in giving great oral and commit to the time involved -it takes most women an average of about 20 minutes to achieve an O. Ask about her fantasies and then make them come true. Devote energy to enhance your own erotic imagination. Also, whether butch or femme, all women go for a little romance, so don't be shy in this area either.
Work it Out
To really increase your allure, you have got to get in shape. A sexy body exudes self esteem & stamina which translates into dynamite sessions in the sack. Aim for a toned physique, nothing too skinny or muscle bound, which you can achieve through a combo of weight lifting and cardio.If you're presently overweight and find it difficult to motivate yourself to hit the gym, consider starting small. Reduce your soda or sofa intake or take a walk a few times a week. The right clothes will also go a long way toward flattering your shape. If you have larger breasts, favor a V-neck top over a crew neck. Also, if you're a little on the short side, give yourself a height advantage with shoes that have a bit of heel. Try a half-inch platform if you're apprehensive about it, it won't kill you!

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