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Oh no, you and your girlfriend broke up:(  What the hell is wrong with you? What the hell is wrong with her? You lay on the couch sobbing and obsessing. Then you start to fall into a pit of deep despair and begin questioning if you will ever find the "one." Before you let yourself go a weee bit psycho over all this, consider this wise advice.
Obsession
Do not reread every email and text the two of you ever exchanged. Do not scan her Facebook page for people she may have left you for or potentially may hook up with. Do not replay old conversations in your head like a broken record. These are all a huge waste of your valuable time. Instead of squandering your time thinking about her, do something good for yourself! Try taking a walk, hitting the gym or calling a friend.
Blame Game
Stop blaming yourself. Do not rack your brain drudging up every way you fucked up. Yes, you made mistakes but dwelling on them is just going to make you feel bad about yourself – the last thing you need right now. Rather than beating yourself up, learn from your mistakes and move on. This makes you a better person than you were when you began this relationship.
Fun in the Sun
We know you don't feel like it, but force yourself to go out and have fun with your friends. Meet someone for lunch, go biking with your BFF or gather a group for an evening of chick flicks. Anything that brings you any joy.
Water under the Bridge
As time marches on, you will realize that this break up isn't the end of the world. You will start feeling better and one day you will be totally over it. Try to remember that the hurt will only last so long. Hey we know it's not easy, we've been through break ups too. Just trust us, you'll be back on the market soon enough:)

For more advice on how to recover from splitting up go to Break Up Advice.
 

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Does it seem like you and your gf are just not meshing lately? Or maybe it's been more like a cat fight when you're around each other. It's really quite simple to get back on her good side and perhaps even get a little closer to your partner with just a little bit of effort.

Keep Up
Forgot the anniversary of your first kiss? Well, she remembers everything.  So while you remember — maybe — the day you met, she’s engraved all of your "firsts" into her brain. Hey, there’s a reason the smart phone and Google calendar were invented. Use your electronic gadgets to take notes in order to keep up with her and keep her happy.

Pay Attention
Your woman see shades of meaning in the littlest things & smallest of gestures. Therefore, an asinine comment like, “I’d rather watch the game” might have said more than you wanted it to. There's hope though! Likewise, a small act of kindness like a kiss on the cheek or volunteering to call ahead to make a reservation, will bring back harmony. She’ll consider both the gesture and the thoughtfulness behind it.
Stay Calm
She’s much better at reining in her aggressive impulses than you are. You created a scene and she responded calmly to someone's rudeness. If you're out and someone insults you, don't fly off the handle and start yelling or let it ruin your evening. Instead, consider the context and behave gracefully.
Pen Something
She excels in coming up with the perfect words, knowing exactly the right thing to say, sending great cards and love notes. You on the other hand, have the vocabulary of a 5th grader.  All is not lost. Write her a poem... or at least a cute email. Woo her with the though that you took the time and made the effort.
Cheer Lead
If she had a tough day at work or a disagreement with a family member: try a pep talk without taking sides, give her a soothing back rub, run her a warm tub or maybe just give her a long hug. You can't change the way she feels, but you can definitely show her that you support her.

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This year, don't spend a fortune on a fancy dinner and pretentious presents to celebrate Valentine's Day with your girl. With a little creativity and planning, you can make the day very special for very little money. Here are some great ideas for staying in and enjoying quality time together at home.
1. Sex Slumber
Make love all night long like you use to do! Instead of taking off work on Valentine's Day, take off February 15th and get off on February 14th!. Stay the whole night in bed alternating between watching erotic movies, eating sexy snacks and drinking cocktails. Watch the sunrise together and sleep until late afternoon. Sounds wonderful!
2. Picnic In
It's way too cold to be outdoors, so do it indoors instead. Pump up the heat and spread a cozy blanket on your living room floor. Pop open a special bottle of wine or champagne or beer; just make it her favorite. Delicately feed one other strawberries or grapes or Twinkies; whatever floats her fancy:)
3. Act 1
Valentine's Day is an opportune time to put some spark back in your relationship and her pants. Have her write out a sexual fantasy or role play or new position that she wants to try.Then act them out. We suggest Cop & Capture for role playing and trying the Scissors position to get started;)
4. Massage
Bust out the oils and lotions and lubes, oh my! Go ahead and light some candles. Tender tickles and careful caresses add to the mood. Move to the tub together too! When was the last time you and she spent the evening exploring each others bodies? Don't be a dud; take turns!
5. Board not Bored
Play some board or card games with a twist. Loser takes off a piece of clothing, does something naughty or tells a steamy story from their past. Or if you are even more committed, buy Jenga and write out Truths & Dares on each piece. Whomever pulls it, completes it! Such wicked fun! We promise;)

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