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Does it seem like you and your gf are just not meshing lately? Or maybe it's been more like a cat fight when you're around each other. It's really quite simple to get back on her good side and perhaps even get a little closer to your partner with just a little bit of effort.

Keep Up
Forgot the anniversary of your first kiss? Well, she remembers everything.  So while you remember — maybe — the day you met, she’s engraved all of your "firsts" into her brain. Hey, there’s a reason the smart phone and Google calendar were invented. Use your electronic gadgets to take notes in order to keep up with her and keep her happy.

Pay Attention
Your woman see shades of meaning in the littlest things & smallest of gestures. Therefore, an asinine comment like, “I’d rather watch the game” might have said more than you wanted it to. There's hope though! Likewise, a small act of kindness like a kiss on the cheek or volunteering to call ahead to make a reservation, will bring back harmony. She’ll consider both the gesture and the thoughtfulness behind it.
Stay Calm
She’s much better at reining in her aggressive impulses than you are. You created a scene and she responded calmly to someone's rudeness. If you're out and someone insults you, don't fly off the handle and start yelling or let it ruin your evening. Instead, consider the context and behave gracefully.
Pen Something
She excels in coming up with the perfect words, knowing exactly the right thing to say, sending great cards and love notes. You on the other hand, have the vocabulary of a 5th grader.  All is not lost. Write her a poem... or at least a cute email. Woo her with the though that you took the time and made the effort.
Cheer Lead
If she had a tough day at work or a disagreement with a family member: try a pep talk without taking sides, give her a soothing back rub, run her a warm tub or maybe just give her a long hug. You can't change the way she feels, but you can definitely show her that you support her.

This year, don't spend a fortune on a fancy dinner and pretentious presents to celebrate Valentine's Day with your girl. With a little creativity and planning, you can make the day very special for very little money. Here are some great ideas for staying in and enjoying quality time together at home.
1. Sex Slumber
Make love all night long like you use to do! Instead of taking off work on Valentine's Day, take off February 15th and get off on February 14th!. Stay the whole night in bed alternating between watching erotic movies, eating sexy snacks and drinking cocktails. Watch the sunrise together and sleep until late afternoon. Sounds wonderful!
2. Picnic In
It's way too cold to be outdoors, so do it indoors instead. Pump up the heat and spread a cozy blanket on your living room floor. Pop open a special bottle of wine or champagne or beer; just make it her favorite. Delicately feed one other strawberries or grapes or Twinkies; whatever floats her fancy:)
3. Act 1
Valentine's Day is an opportune time to put some spark back in your relationship and her pants. Have her write out a sexual fantasy or role play or new position that she wants to try.Then act them out. We suggest Cop & Capture for role playing and trying the Scissors position to get started;)
4. Massage
Bust out the oils and lotions and lubes, oh my! Go ahead and light some candles. Tender tickles and careful caresses add to the mood. Move to the tub together too! When was the last time you and she spent the evening exploring each others bodies? Don't be a dud; take turns!
5. Board not Bored
Play some board or card games with a twist. Loser takes off a piece of clothing, does something naughty or tells a steamy story from their past. Or if you are even more committed, buy Jenga and write out Truths & Dares on each piece. Whomever pulls it, completes it! Such wicked fun! We promise;)

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Melissa Etheridge filed legal documents in LA on Friday to formally end her domestic partnership with Tammy Lynn Michaels after 9 years together.In the Petition for Dissolution of Domestic Partnership, Etheridge cites "irreconcilable differences" and has requested joint custody of their 3-year-old twins. Unfortunately for Tammy, Melissa has asked that the court NOT award financial support to Tammy, which is quite disappointing as Tammy appears to be the main caregiver of the twins.
Tammy responded via her blog, hollywood farm girl, the very next day:

gentle waves
no noise for awhile
or maybe gentle voices
and
SMACK!!!!!!!!!!!!
FILE FOR DIVORCE!!!!!!
even though we both promised
agreed
handshook
pinkyswore
no filing until after tour
in the fall
her broken promises
told to me by
headlines
i'm raising the kids
doing what i can
second set of yours
could you stop blind sighting me?
unless it's another art form you're working on?

Tammy also says she doesn't have a "steady paycheck" coming in and she's been left penniless by Melissa. Tammy writes:
i gave up my managers, agents, contacts, all that good stuff, because i stepped directly into potty training a small boy, and carrying around a small girl on my hip. both excellent souls. and i was a very huge part in raising them for many many years while She with the Guitar focused on her Guitar.
 i was always the house wife after that. the only thing i hated about it was not bringing in money- i have made my own money since i started babysitting at 10, and having a newspaper route at 11. having no steady paycheck killed me for those years with her. and now it's really killing me. the other week i had to borrow money from a friend. two weeks ago i had to scrape together $1.25 to pay for gas. i know she doesn't want to give me money. trust. i'm borrowing cash left and right from people to get through this summer, and feed my kids, with a stomach full of ulcers, thank you. no stress here.
how's that spiritual tour coming along?
so now…. to open the lap top…. and read the headlines…. when i just spoke to the fame crawler yesterday…. she could have mentioned it….. and hmmm…. wants some custody of kids…. interesting…. but no $ support for me… interesting as well…. so so so interesting, there, melissa. practicing what we preach is always hard for americans, i think. (is that why you and rick warren got along so well? ) oh, the nights of promises….'tammy, if i ever leave you, it's because i'm crazy, and you have to come find me and get me and save me!!! we have to be together forever!' (remember that one, lucky?)
DOH!!
Come on, Melissa! For Fuck's Sake-She's the mother of your children!!!