Lesbian Exclusive Exchange

Too much Real L Word drama in your relationship? Then you have to resist these deadly urges that are sure to ruin your otherwise healthy relationship.
Girl Spy
Maybe you think you're staying ahead of the curve by keeping constant surveillance of your girlfriend's Myspace, Facebook and Twitter accounts. But being aware of the minutiae of her everyday world shows a lack of trust, and will more than likely lead to over analysis and perhaps even boredom. It really does more harm than good. Besides, it's borderline stalker behavior.
I Lie
Lying to your partner for any reason does not make for a successful future together. It's really simple stupid-just don’t do it.
Family Matters
No matter how you feel about her family, telling her how much they drive you nuts is bound to drive a wedge into your relationship. Even if she thinks her relatives are bananas, she doesn't want to hear you bash her blood. It’s best to hold your tongue with respect to her family.
Cat Fight
It's natural for all couples to have arguments, especially if you've been together a while. However, fights that become physical or regularly spill out into public are damaging and embarrassing relationship issues.
That Girl
Letting yourself go is not only bad for your health and self esteem, it sends a bad message to your partner. Gaining weight or not caring about the way you look, no matter the length of the relationship, shows you have stopped caring about yourself. Perhaps you don't care about the way she thinks you look either. Don't be that girl.
Make Over
Many women think they are helping when trying to make their partner over. It's fine to give your partner some tips or advice on make up or fashion or whatever, IF she asks for it. Don't try to get her to wear make up if she doesn't like it and don't buy her butchier clothes just because you love the butch in her. You may end up causing more problems for the relationship.
Avoid & Ignore
Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship, but you don't! In your quest to avoid creating drama, you might be allowing things that upset you to go unsaid and to fester. If you do, you are doing yourself and your partner a great injustice. Good communication is crucial to a  happy, long-term relationship.

Let's face it, the first kiss holds a helluva lot of importance for us. In fact, some women decide if they're going to sleep with you based simply on how that first lipsmack goes & well...all women want their girl to be a good kisser.
Don't make your first kiss your last!
Eager Beaver
Show some restraint when you go in for the first kiss. True, it may be difficult to assess whether or not she is welcoming a smooch. If you’re not sure, give her a clue. Let her know you had a great time, tell her she looks beautiful or lean in close enough for her to take the hint. However, be careful not to be too aloof or to pretend that you don’t care. You should sublty let her know you’re interested. If you wait for her to make a move without any indication that you are into it, you may be waiting for an eternity since some women are not comfortable with initiating. Try to strike a smooth balance between eager & aloof.
Ms. Time
The timing of the first kiss is essential. It shouldn’t be a surprise, so make sure to wait for the right moment. The right moment is not while she has food in her mouth, while there's an audience around or when she is riffling through her bag for her keys. Wait until she’s looking at you & paying attention before you move in for the kiss or things may get really awkward.
Cop-a-FeeL
Unless you've been giving the full speed ahead signal, you should keep your hands inside the vehicle at all times. Grabbing her ass or squeezing a breast is absolutely unacceptable & one of the fastest ways to get bitch slapped. If you want to touch her, cup her face gently with your hand or wrap your arms around her in an intimate hug. Consider erogenous zones a no-go for the time being.
Breath Offense
Hello, if your breath stinks, you won't even get close enough to her lips to attempt a kiss. Don’t go overboard on the breath fresheners either. Whipping out the breath spray as you walk her to her door is cheesy & presumptuous. Do take advantage of the after-dinner mint but don't have anything in your mouth when's it go time.
Drool is UncooL
When you pull away from the first kiss, your date should not have to wipe saliva, or any other substances for that matter, off of her face. Keep the drool under control & the heavy breathing too!

Advice on Approaching

Us girls aren’t typically brought up to be assertive nor taught how to approach a future mate, especially another female. Therefore, we thought we’d give you some pointers to push you in the right direction.

1. Observe

Make a comment about something you observe in your & her environment. This is especially effective at a store. If she is browsing the jean rack, ask her if the prices are good there.  Make your comment immediate & pertinent to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. There is always something interesting to comment on regardless of the surroundings.

2. Smile

This shows her that you are friendly & open. A genuine smile will put her at ease & create warmness in the interaction. Of course, having great teeth is also a plus;)

3. Confidence

If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident, a definite turn-off. Walk over to her within a short period of time of seeing her. Show her you are a woman who knows what she wants & goes for it.

4. Body Talk

If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative vibes about yourself. Instead, stand up straight with your shoulders back and that perky chest out, and use a poised yet relaxed walk.

5. Calm & Casual

If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal stalker alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel relaxed about having a stranger approach her.

6. Eye to Eye

Never be the first to break eye contact. If you do, it may send the message that you are not feeling certain about approaching. Beware of staring though. Practice this & it will come more naturally.

7. Listen Up

Make sure you pay careful attention to everything that comes out of her pretty mouth. Do not have lines that you already have thought out. That is super cheesy! Women love women who can engage in a spontaneous & witty conversation.

8. Comfort Level

Fidgeting is distracting & shows you’re uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are not comfortable, she will likely feel discomfort and may close off. Be aware of your body & pay attention to your movements, or lack of movement, to communicate comfort and confidence.

9. Lighten Up

The tone of your voice is very telling. Approaching her in a light & playful tone is one of the best ways to open a conversation. Consider using some humor in your approach.

10. Lean Machine

If you lean in too far when she talks you may make her feel crowded. A better way is to lean slightly away from her. This shows her that you respect her personal space while you’re in her space.