Lesbian Exclusive Exchange

Oh no, you and your girlfriend broke up:(  What the hell is wrong with you? What the hell is wrong with her? You lay on the couch sobbing and obsessing. Then you start to fall into a pit of deep despair and begin questioning if you will ever find the "one." Before you let yourself go a weee bit psycho over all this, consider this wise advice.
Obsession
Do not reread every email and text the two of you ever exchanged. Do not scan her Facebook page for people she may have left you for or potentially may hook up with. Do not replay old conversations in your head like a broken record. These are all a huge waste of your valuable time. Instead of squandering your time thinking about her, do something good for yourself! Try taking a walk, hitting the gym or calling a friend.
Blame Game
Stop blaming yourself. Do not rack your brain drudging up every way you fucked up. Yes, you made mistakes but dwelling on them is just going to make you feel bad about yourself – the last thing you need right now. Rather than beating yourself up, learn from your mistakes and move on. This makes you a better person than you were when you began this relationship.
Fun in the Sun
We know you don't feel like it, but force yourself to go out and have fun with your friends. Meet someone for lunch, go biking with your BFF or gather a group for an evening of chick flicks. Anything that brings you any joy.
Water under the Bridge
As time marches on, you will realize that this break up isn't the end of the world. You will start feeling better and one day you will be totally over it. Try to remember that the hurt will only last so long. Hey we know it's not easy, we've been through break ups too. Just trust us, you'll be back on the market soon enough:)

For more advice on how to recover from splitting up go to Break Up Advice.
 

Yesterday my beautiful girlfriend and I celebrated our 2 year and 5 month anniversary.  Some of our friends laugh and poke fun at our monthly ritual of taking the 26th day of the month to celebrate being together. It may sound sappy and a bit excessive to some, but I think that if more lesbian couples incorporated a monthly date night into their schedules, there would be a decrease in the number of lesbian members in the LBDS Club (lesbian bed death sydrome)!

When you're in a committed, long-term relationship with a woman that honeymoon stage seems to fade too quickly.  Women are very emotional beings, yes it’s true, and when we’ve had a rough day or we’re stressed or just tired, sex and affection tend to be the last thing on our minds. So, when you and your girlfriend have been together for a while and life starts taking over the raging hormones that used to keep you up all night for weeks at a time, you’re bound to find your intimate time taking a back seat to your daily routine. 

Don’t wait for this to happen!  You need to plan a date night, and not just once a year on your anniversary.  It needs to be a set day that both of you remember every month where nothing gets in the way of spending time with your one and only woman.  Ladies, this means no friends, no facebook, no family, no home improvement, and no tv unless it’s what you both decide you wish to do with your time together.  Everything else needs to take a back seat to her for one day.  It’s time to focus on each other. 

Romance her.  Pick up a card and remind her of something from a past anniversary that makes you smile.  Bring her one red rose or maybe dinner from her favorite take-out joint.  Wake up on that morning and cook her breakfast in bed with a little intimate massage after.  Or run a warm bath and set your ipod to her favorite playlist. 

Your goal here is to have a day to make your woman number one again, like she was that first week when you called in sick to work 3 times just so you didn’t have to leave her beautiful naked body in bed alone those mornings.  So celebrate your monthly anniversary or even make every second Tuesday your date night.  Just do something to spice it up again ladies!   Date night is a must!

Despite your lovely locks, sexy smile and best come on, you are destined to experience a dry spell at some point. Perhaps there aren't that many single ladies in your neck of the woods or maybe the bevy of lesbian beauties have proved immune to your wile charms. Perhaps, you're just plain unlucky. Don't fret! Help is on the way;)
These timely tips simply require that you be proactive and try a few different approaches and techniques.
Change of Scenery
Us lesbos all have our favorite nightclubs and bars. We go to these places and expect to find available women. Well, even the most popular lesbian haunts experience dry spells and dead nights. It may be temporary, but it's a good time to seek out a few new spots. There are always other options. Check out our Social Event Calendar for instance:)There are bound to be hot spots you’ve never visited where you can find many a new faces. Even consider going out of town for a few days (with or without friends) to try several new places in a single weekend.There’s no telling what adventures you might have in a new city.
Go Outside the Box
We all have our personal preferences but when a dry spell hits, consider going for girls outside your typically type. This goes beyond targeting brunettes if you’re typically into blondes. You should also broaden your requirements for body shape and personality. Maybe you’ve always had a thing for curvy girls, and the smaller more petite ladies don't bleep on your radar. Maybe you’ve always gone after more aggressive girls (they don’t require much patience or effort, after all). Go ahead, approach that quiet, slender girl in the group who keeps glancing in your direction. See what happens:)
New Opening
It’s not about different opening lines because we don't suggest you use “lines.” However, we do suggest employing an array of techniques and styles to get a woman's interest. When things go flat, you have to choose another skill in your repertoire or -- horror of horrors -- take the time to develop new strategies. If you usually initiate an encounter with a small compliment, eye contact and the offer of a drink, try being more inventive. Start off with a solid conversation-starter question. Remember, if you have a catalog of available approaches, it allows you to smoothly switch on the fly. Don’t forget about your attitude, tone and manner. These can significantly alter an approach. For more advice on approaching, read Girl Meets Girl:)
Freshen your Look
Yes, it can be difficult to stay up-to-date with the latest lesbian fashion, especially if your "look" has worked well in the past. But when you do the math and realize that you’ve not had sex for 3 months, well you start to question your appeal. Think about trying a new hairstyle or color, buying a few new clothing items or altering your make up routine. If you’ve been sporting casual bedhead hair, you could sleek and smooth it for a night. If you always wear dark, smoky eye make up, try something fresh & light for an evening. There are plenty of ways to present yourself differently, so spend some extra time in the mirror before you get ready to go out!