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Despite your lovely locks, sexy smile and best come on, you are destined to experience a dry spell at some point. Perhaps there aren't that many single ladies in your neck of the woods or maybe the bevy of lesbian beauties have proved immune to your wile charms. Perhaps, you're just plain unlucky. Don't fret! Help is on the way;)
These timely tips simply require that you be proactive and try a few different approaches and techniques.
Change of Scenery
Us lesbos all have our favorite nightclubs and bars. We go to these places and expect to find available women. Well, even the most popular lesbian haunts experience dry spells and dead nights. It may be temporary, but it's a good time to seek out a few new spots. There are always other options. Check out our Social Event Calendar for instance:)There are bound to be hot spots you’ve never visited where you can find many a new faces. Even consider going out of town for a few days (with or without friends) to try several new places in a single weekend.There’s no telling what adventures you might have in a new city.
Go Outside the Box
We all have our personal preferences but when a dry spell hits, consider going for girls outside your typically type. This goes beyond targeting brunettes if you’re typically into blondes. You should also broaden your requirements for body shape and personality. Maybe you’ve always had a thing for curvy girls, and the smaller more petite ladies don't bleep on your radar. Maybe you’ve always gone after more aggressive girls (they don’t require much patience or effort, after all). Go ahead, approach that quiet, slender girl in the group who keeps glancing in your direction. See what happens:)
New Opening
It’s not about different opening lines because we don't suggest you use “lines.” However, we do suggest employing an array of techniques and styles to get a woman's interest. When things go flat, you have to choose another skill in your repertoire or -- horror of horrors -- take the time to develop new strategies. If you usually initiate an encounter with a small compliment, eye contact and the offer of a drink, try being more inventive. Start off with a solid conversation-starter question. Remember, if you have a catalog of available approaches, it allows you to smoothly switch on the fly. Don’t forget about your attitude, tone and manner. These can significantly alter an approach. For more advice on approaching, read Girl Meets Girl:)
Freshen your Look
Yes, it can be difficult to stay up-to-date with the latest lesbian fashion, especially if your "look" has worked well in the past. But when you do the math and realize that you’ve not had sex for 3 months, well you start to question your appeal. Think about trying a new hairstyle or color, buying a few new clothing items or altering your make up routine. If you’ve been sporting casual bedhead hair, you could sleek and smooth it for a night. If you always wear dark, smoky eye make up, try something fresh & light for an evening. There are plenty of ways to present yourself differently, so spend some extra time in the mirror before you get ready to go out!

Too much Real L Word drama in your relationship? Then you have to resist these deadly urges that are sure to ruin your otherwise healthy relationship.
Girl Spy
Maybe you think you're staying ahead of the curve by keeping constant surveillance of your girlfriend's Myspace, Facebook and Twitter accounts. But being aware of the minutiae of her everyday world shows a lack of trust, and will more than likely lead to over analysis and perhaps even boredom. It really does more harm than good. Besides, it's borderline stalker behavior.
I Lie
Lying to your partner for any reason does not make for a successful future together. It's really simple stupid-just don’t do it.
Family Matters
No matter how you feel about her family, telling her how much they drive you nuts is bound to drive a wedge into your relationship. Even if she thinks her relatives are bananas, she doesn't want to hear you bash her blood. It’s best to hold your tongue with respect to her family.
Cat Fight
It's natural for all couples to have arguments, especially if you've been together a while. However, fights that become physical or regularly spill out into public are damaging and embarrassing relationship issues.
That Girl
Letting yourself go is not only bad for your health and self esteem, it sends a bad message to your partner. Gaining weight or not caring about the way you look, no matter the length of the relationship, shows you have stopped caring about yourself. Perhaps you don't care about the way she thinks you look either. Don't be that girl.
Make Over
Many women think they are helping when trying to make their partner over. It's fine to give your partner some tips or advice on make up or fashion or whatever, IF she asks for it. Don't try to get her to wear make up if she doesn't like it and don't buy her butchier clothes just because you love the butch in her. You may end up causing more problems for the relationship.
Avoid & Ignore
Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship, but you don't! In your quest to avoid creating drama, you might be allowing things that upset you to go unsaid and to fester. If you do, you are doing yourself and your partner a great injustice. Good communication is crucial to a  happy, long-term relationship.

Let's face it, the first kiss holds a helluva lot of importance for us. In fact, some women decide if they're going to sleep with you based simply on how that first lipsmack goes & well...all women want their girl to be a good kisser.
Don't make your first kiss your last!
Eager Beaver
Show some restraint when you go in for the first kiss. True, it may be difficult to assess whether or not she is welcoming a smooch. If you’re not sure, give her a clue. Let her know you had a great time, tell her she looks beautiful or lean in close enough for her to take the hint. However, be careful not to be too aloof or to pretend that you don’t care. You should sublty let her know you’re interested. If you wait for her to make a move without any indication that you are into it, you may be waiting for an eternity since some women are not comfortable with initiating. Try to strike a smooth balance between eager & aloof.
Ms. Time
The timing of the first kiss is essential. It shouldn’t be a surprise, so make sure to wait for the right moment. The right moment is not while she has food in her mouth, while there's an audience around or when she is riffling through her bag for her keys. Wait until she’s looking at you & paying attention before you move in for the kiss or things may get really awkward.
Cop-a-FeeL
Unless you've been giving the full speed ahead signal, you should keep your hands inside the vehicle at all times. Grabbing her ass or squeezing a breast is absolutely unacceptable & one of the fastest ways to get bitch slapped. If you want to touch her, cup her face gently with your hand or wrap your arms around her in an intimate hug. Consider erogenous zones a no-go for the time being.
Breath Offense
Hello, if your breath stinks, you won't even get close enough to her lips to attempt a kiss. Don’t go overboard on the breath fresheners either. Whipping out the breath spray as you walk her to her door is cheesy & presumptuous. Do take advantage of the after-dinner mint but don't have anything in your mouth when's it go time.
Drool is UncooL
When you pull away from the first kiss, your date should not have to wipe saliva, or any other substances for that matter, off of her face. Keep the drool under control & the heavy breathing too!